Caring for a loved one with dementia is a full-time job without the advantage of paid leave. Juggling daily responsibilities and commitments while providing care is stressful, so taking breaks are important. However, many caregivers neglect the own well-being to the detriment of everyone involved.

Reasons caregivers don’t take breaks

Those in the role of caregiving often refuse to take breaks for a number of reasons:

They believe they don’t need a break: This is a noble idea, but unless you have super powers, this is simply not a realistic goal. Everybody needs time to rest, recharge and make sure their needs have been met.

They believe the stress of adult day care programs outweighs the benefits: Adults with dementia may be resistant to the idea at first, causing extra stress and frustration. However, socializing can greatly benefit those with dementia and many day care programs provide enjoyable stimulating activities. It may be stressful at first, but it’s well worth the effort.

They can’t afford professional help: Finding qualified caregivers at an affordable price can be challenging. However, all is not lost. Look into community resources available for older adults. Faith-based organizations and community centres often have adult day care programs or volunteers ready to assist. If no community resources are available, consider asking friends of family for assistance. Just an afternoon to yourself to run errands, go to appointments or just take a nap can already help a lot.

Feelings of guilt: Leaving your vulnerable loved one in the care of someone else can cause a lot of anxiety and guilt, perhaps even making you feel selfish for causing your loved one discomfort and stress. However, remember that you need to take care of your own health in order to provide the best possible care for your loved one. In the long run, taking a break will benefit them as much as it benefits you.

Why taking a break is important

Caregiving is a stressful business and not taking proper care of yourself can lead to caregiver burnout.

Caregivers suffering from burnout experience increased stress, frustration, and guilt which can lead to resentment which can worsen feelings of guilt and frustration. It’s a never-ending cycle that becomes harder to break. Caregivers neglecting their own health often miss important doctor’s appointments, skip meals, and lose out on precious sleep which can worsen their overall health and weaken their immune system. Severe burnout can also lead to a decline in mental health and even affect cognitive functioning.

Getting enough exercise, making time to prepare nutritious meals, getting enough sleep and practicing relaxation techniques go a long way to prevent caregiver burnout, but sometimes you simply need time to yourself. A 15 minute walk or a cup of tea in the garden can provide momentary relief, but sometimes you need to take some extended me-time.

Respite Care

If your loved one needs full-time care, consider investing in respite care to give you some time off. Respite care is a short-term stay in a care facility where your loved one will be taken care of by healthcare professionals. Respite care is flexible and can be provided for a few hours, a few days or even a few weeks, depending on the needs of the caregiver.

Conclusion

In order to provide the best possible care for your loved one, it’s vital that you take time for yourself. A day or even a weekend away to rest and recharge your batteries, connect with friends and family, and get some fresh air and exercise will greatly reduce the risk of burnout. You’ll come back to your loved one relaxed, calm, and more compassionate.